Do you say why you don't understand why you're doing this when you're in a deadlock?
Maybe your horoscopes aren't compatible. You may have a horoscope of harmony between the people in your life and the reasons why you can't look at things from the same place, or even understand each other without talking.
Don't make yourself feel like why it doesn't happen! If you know what's in your head, you can find out how much harmony she might have.